What comes to mind when you think of weddings????
For me, firstly...chaos comes to mind. Lets face it, weddings are chaotic events. Have you ever been involved in one where every single thing went smoothly??? I went to 2 end of Nov/early Dec and both were chaotic.
The first one ended up with me having to do a bit of washing dishes, serving drinks, decorate the main table and moulding wajik for the bunga pahar (yeah... like I am very experienced lah! Somebody shoot me!!). I'm actually not complaining about having to do all those, but just reminding myself that I have yet to experience chaos free events. Something somehow will come up, goes missing, not going on time, diverted from plan, etc.
The second thing that comes to mind is reunion. Be it with distance relatives, old neighbours, long lost friends, etc. The other wedding I went to was my old neighbour's son's. Despite the heavy downpours on the day, it was an enjoyable one. I met almost everyone of the neighbour's children and had a quick catch up with them (eg. which kid is whose). What followed afterwards was warm feeling while my mind went down the memory lanes of childhood with them (but that could be another story).
However, I noticed that this time around, people somehow have stopped asking THE common questions - "how many kids" or "which one is your husband" or "are you married now". Those that kinda know me would just say..."oh look...that is so and so... and he (either bujang tua or duda) is looking for a wife" and then proceed to give me a long (dirty) look.
I wonder sometimes whether there is a visible word of "i'm single, get me any man" engraved on my forehead, which is only invisible to me????
Maybe that's the price of freedom (for both freedom by choice and freedom because of no choice). Who knows.
3 comments:
urgh. hate weddings. hated it before i had one, hated it WHEN i had one, hate it still now. family reunions aside, sure it's supposed to be a celebration but nowadays, it's just a big show.
if, and that's a big IF, i do get married again, i'm gonna elope. preferably to a beach. with only the people who really matter - close family and friends - surrounding me.
er, u think got tok kadi willing to perform nikah on beach, arh? hahaha.
My worst fear IF I do have a big kenduri is, what if the groom doesn't turn up. uwaaa.. That would be chaotic. People also stop asking me the question alredi. Dah expire ke aku ni? heheh
odissi - elope to a beach town lah. i would think as long as the wali is there, you can get married anywhere you want. so go for it! i also think it is a VERY good idea. tak membazir duit and masa also.
ttg - bila agaknya your turn ye??? heh heh heh
nekbat - somebody should go into the business of groom surveillance (or groon-sitting to make sure he stays put). i really think there is a market for such service as your fear is certainly a valid one. don't worry.. belum expire lah. it's just people got tired of repeating themselves.. heh heh heh
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